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The Emotional Pillar of Ultimate Potentials encompasses our positive and negative energy, and the way in which we interact with those energies. It is in this pillar that we feel the value of significant relationships, and the way we react to the world around us. 

  • Emotions - No Longer a Private Affair (And It’s a Good Thing!)

“Often, in order to function in society, we hold back our true emotions. Timing is certainly everything, especially when it comes to sharing feelings” — Diana Raab, Psychology Today

The Emotional Pillar of Ultimate Potentials encompasses our positive and negative energy, and the way in which we interact with those energies. It is in this pillar that we feel the value of significant relationships, and the way we react to the world around us. 

We have all done it; we’re sitting on the bus heading in to work or classes or waiting in line at a coffee shop and it’s just turning out to be a terrible day. We’re fighting back tears because we absolutely do not want to cry in public, because our tears may feel like a private, intimate thing that we ought to keep behind closed doors. We may feel that there are social structures in place that tell us it is only okay to express certain emotions in private. It may feel like it’s never “the right time” to express our feelings that are not happy or positive. 

All of these things together can cause us to feel alienated from our emotions. 

So, how do we deal with this? Well, there are easier ways than unravelling the fabric of our society’s view of emotions! 

It can help to take a step back and acknowledge our emotions and where they come from. Next time you’re feeling stressed or upset (or anything, really!), take a moment to consider what is making you feel that way, and what exactly it is you’re feeling. There’s no need to have all the answers right away, but getting in the habit of thinking about our emotions can help us learn how to be aware of them, which can, in turn, help us learn how to take apart and explain why we’re feeling a certain way. Knowledge is powerful, after all. This understanding can help us communicate our feelings with ourselves and with others. 

That brings us to the second part of getting more in touch with your emotions—the importance of sharing your feelings with loved ones. We have spoken before about how positive and healing family time can be, and that hasn’t changed. Sometimes, what we need to understand and express our emotions better is to have an outside perspective on the matter. It is important to take a step to think about why we feel a certain way, and an outsider’s perspective can be helpful. Your loved ones can give you a perspective that you may have never thought of yourself. 

It may be difficult for some of us to believe, but there is someone out there who will listen to you. Approach your loved ones, explain to them that you need to talk. Consider asking them if they can listen, or if they can find time in the future to listen. 

If you are uncomfortable sharing with people close to you in your life, there are many helplines that can assist you, or your school may have a free counsellor who is just there to listen. Your workplace will likely have employee assistance programs (EAP), employee family assistant programs (EFAP) all available for you and your loved ones to use at no extra cost. 

Having these open conversations with loved ones can change your perspective and make you feel closer to your loved ones. It may be difficult, but it’ll be worth it!

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